True, I'm glad you are feeling better, but take it slow. This bug is one that loves to linger for many weeks.
Your h reconnected w/someone he hadn't spoken to in quite some time. It's interesting that he would admit that he's in mlc and give her a general idea as to where he was at. I think he wanted this information to get back to you and he knew that she would tell you. Your h isn't acting strangely at all....he's following the book. Yes, he forgot your birthday, but I bet he won't next year!
Being ill doesn't help w/the emotions. You are feeling tired and vulnerable. We all get that way when we aren't feeling well. You'll be up and about in no time and feeling stronger once again. I do think that being house bound has stirred up your emotions a bit and also hearing from your friend and her passing along the information didn't help your emotional state right now.
True, take care of yourself. Lots of TLC!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
We all go through this, ebbs and flows, it's is part of the crisis and the letting go, perhaps part of the grieving process of truly allowing the old relationship to die.
Thinking of you!!
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
Hi Snodderly, Thanks for your post. Yesterday I spoke to a male friend who my H was quite close to. He wrote to him a few times and when our first D hearing took place last year they even met. I found out that my H did not write to him for Christmas!
Yes, you are so right - H is following the book.
Today I had to go shopping. At least it was sunny but still very cold. I hope this bug did not get "woken up" again by me going out. It did last time. I also had to move the car as the battery gets quite low in this cold. I had to drive around for a while to charge the battery before doing the shopping.
Hopefully, I will be OK by Friday as I would like to go to a Jazz concert.
Hi BND, Thanks for popping by and your comforting words. It is always nice to hear from you.
I feel a bit less emotional today and my health is also improving.
You know, I noticed that your H is quite like mine, also regarding his weight. I thought the advice of taking pictures and putting them somewhere he can see them was a super idea.
Today I received a phone call from a GF who lives abroad. She told me that she might get a job not far away from me, so I offered that she could stay with me for a while until she found some accommodation. We have known each other for over 30 years. We kept in touch for all these years but have only seen each other once or twice.
I hope I did the right thing. I thought that she would be happy of it which she was. I also thought that I would have some company and we could do things together. Later on, however, I suddenly had doubts as my privacy would be invaded. I hope I will not regret it.
H is back to replying to my e-mails faster. We have had contact recently regarding a few "business" things.
that was nice of you to offer your friend a place to stay. it is difficult to have someone living with you. sometimes it works out and other times it does not.
maybe she will just go ahead and find a place of her own.
BUT it is good that you will have your friend close by.
Is your H being polite to you?
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Thanks for your post. I am still not sure whether I did the right thing. But you are right, at least I will have a friend close by.
My H is being polite to me (keep my fingers crossed!!!).
I am feeling a bit less emotional. I guess it is because I am feeling better again but I still have a cough. Hopefully, I will go out at least on the week-end if not on Friday. However, the weather forecast is not too good. The last two days were quite sunny and it is finally getting milder.
Lately, I felt like a hermit. I have not gone out for at least 3 weeks.
Journaling: Unfortunately, I was not fit enough to go to the Jazz concert on Friday. On Saturday we had a lovely and sunny afternoon and I went for a short walk for the first time in weeks.
Today was a horrible and wet day. I felt like some company and invited a GF for afternoon tea. We have not seen each other since the week before Christmas and had to do some catching up. It was fun.
H is again in regular e-mail contact re D and "business" stuff. He is polite.
Glad you were able to get out and to also have a friend over. Also, glad to hear your H is being polite.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
True, I'm sorry to read that you weren't able to attend the Jazz Concert on Friday evening. How are you feeling these days? Did you get rid of the cold?
I'm glad your friend came over and spent some time w/you. You certainly couldn't do anything outside in that weather.
I'm glad your h is being "polite". Please do not let your guard down. I really do not trust him because this being polite and then upsetting has been a pattern of his for quite some time. It's a way of wearing you down so that you'll allow him to have whatever he wants just to get rid of the emotional upheaval he's creating for you. Maybe he's grown up a bit, but I still would keep my eye on him and his motives.
Take care and enjoy your week!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
