(((Kalni))) Thank you, I can see that you are right - perhaps I wouldn't have seen that a little while ago... I think in the situatin where they have walked their guilt is such that they can't handle anything until you show them you are 'ok'.
(((Al))) A time machine would be good - I would have handled a lot of things differently if I went back but then I wouldn't have learnt. Zooming right out would be good but then he does not have such a massive impact on my life nowadays.
(((T))) My outfit was quite hot - I found some really good slimming underwear so I wore a tight skirt, heals, and tight shirt with just enough on show to make it interesting I actually caught him looking lol!!