Would someone please tell me if I am crazy? It's ok. Be honest, I can take it.
My h made the announcement that (18 months post bomb) he is moving. That was last Tuesday. He went to ow's mother's house and stayed there until Thursday when he met me at the neurologist for our son. Then he came back to the house and has been here ever since.
I asked him what his plans were. He said he wanted to do this gradually for son's sake. He told son a year ago he was leaving and didnt, then a month ago and didnt, now last week and he's back. I think that's worse for our son. Thats what I thought. What I actually said was, well, you told him you were leaving and he is 18, you can just leave. He said he thought this was best. Whatever.
Now is it me, or is this just craziness. He wants out, he talks as if he is leaving, yet here he still is. I just dont get it. Really, it must be me. Maybe I really am crazy.
You're NOT crazy, BM. HE is!! This is your life on MLC!!!
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Ditto! The only one that is confused about things is your H! Your son knows, he might not like it, but he can handle it. Probably better if H just does it, rather than drag it out. IMO.
BM I believe part of the struggle for these MLCers is the need to be in both worlds our world their old likfe and the new lifeI always felt eventhough my H moved he was here 4x a week and he was delusional he had one foot in each world I know it is hard and their are no answers most move out some dont and the R rate is said to be better if H is at home keep working on you How is your son? peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Hey Jeff, I know it is better at this point for son if h just left.
You know, h is going to live with ow's mom. She was like a second mother to my h (he lost his mom when he was 13) when he was seeing the 0w thirty years ago. She never got over the tow of them breaking up. I have no doubt she jumped at the chance to offer her house so he could leave his family. She has been waiting 30 years for this. Ow and her mother where classless all the way back then. I see nothing has changed.
But, I am not sure if his affair is as hot and heavy as it was. It doesnt seem to be.
H just told me he is goig for several days. I just said, ok whatever. I dont know what to do db wise, but I am ready to put my foot down and say, you cannot come and go as you like. If you are leaving, you need to leave. I am starting to really get annoyed by this c*ap!
Hey Peace. How are you? My son is not great. He is really struggling. He is doing poorly in school. He didnt even apply to colleges. And his health is not good. I really am just concentrating on him and on trying to figure out what kind of job I can get.
Yeah Glam, odd is not the word. I am seriously considering a 180 for me is to tell him since he made the decision to leave, then he needs to do it. This is not fair to my son. He keeps thinking this is it, his father is gone and then he comes back.
And it is not respectful to me. I dont know if he is still with ow romantically or not, but he is living with her mother. And he uses our house like a hotel. It is not right.
Hey S, I am not going to lie, it is really pi**ing me off today. He left this m orning to go stay at the mother's house. Dont know when he is coming back, I didnt ask.
But I did just call him. We have new medical coverage (through his job) and I asked him how to find out about therapists for son. He didnt give me the new information yet. I just found something else my son wrote on myspace and it is really concerning me.
I was annoyed and upset and he could tell. I just asked for the info and said good bye. I was afraid to stay on the phone with him because what I really wanted to say was, "grow the hell up, pick which life you want and then do it."
You know, life is too short for me to be playing freakin' games with him and I am too old for it.
