Pam had told you what i want to tell you... Detach and beguin a new by your own life... if things change between both of you in the future, voilá... then you will see how to fix the things in your R... but right now he is not accepting any words you are telling and writing... think about this, he needs to see you independent, self living, happy without him, just to beguin realizing and value the things he had done and he is losing...
andrea