[/quote]I have had all those same thoughts too!!! MLC is not very attractive!!! I do think it's amazing that we knock ourselves out to be the more attractive alternative, and I think most (maybe all) of our WAS are actually very unattractive themselves. I think as time goes on I've gotten more detached and all. Which is good. He has a harder time hurting me now, so maybe that is another reason detaching is good. Karen [/quote]
When you are "in love" we tend to overlook each other's faults but when the WS breaks the trust and deceives and lies, we start to take off the "rose colored glasses" and see what others see. Get the book "surviving an affair" by hartley. He has an analogy about "a bank", we make deposits and withdrawals in the love bank and when after awhile the bank is empty if you don't fill it again with "love deposits" the marriage will die..does that make sense. It is a good book to explore
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
I do think it's amazing that we knock ourselves out to be the more attractive alternative, and I think most (maybe all) of our WAS are actually very unattractive themselves. I think as time goes on I've gotten more detached and all. Which is good. He has a harder time hurting me now, so maybe that is another reason detaching is good. Karen [/quote]