Yes, I'm a doormat! I've come to the slow realization that I'm letting him have all the control and have been willing to put up with his horrible treatment of me just because I'm scared he's going to leave. Well, he's already left! You are absolutely right!

I will do what you have suggested and not take his calls or be available to him like I have been. It's time for a big 180 here.

And NO he doesn't leave money after sex . But when we get in fights he makes me feel like a cat in heat because I initiate sexual contact. He says 'well you called, i had to sleep with you!'. Yikes!