Quote: Yes, the letters and everything else seem hopeless right now. I'm going to counseling. Couseliing good, make sure it is SBT. Continue to write letters, just don't send them, good for the soul.
Quote: Yes, I've tried going out...he's not interested or at least says nothing to indicate interest. I mean make him jealous, go out, don't let him know where you are going, don't answer his calls right away, always seem busy when in touch with him.
Quote: I've read DB, DR, ...lots of books. my favorites, Mars/Venus, Love Languages, Love Tank(this one is very good)
Quote: My H seems determined to rid himself of me. Doesn't call unless he wants sex, Does he leave money or do you give sex for free or the kids. I have to admit though that I've been too available to him... YOU THINK!!! I always go over when he calls, see him when he gets the kids, call him, write him, etc. do the words doormat come to mind. You are letting him control the sith, its time you take control.
Quote: Right now I just feel very hopeless and that I need to get rid of him and move on. This endless torture is not doing much for my self image . You are overwhelm now, you need to take some time away. Can you get away from the kids, for a few days, make him take care of them. If you don't decompress, you are going to start taking it out on your kids. Read up on "wendy351", she has some of the same problems as you, except her H took her kids.
