Yes, the letters and everything else seem hopeless right now. I'm going to counseling. Yes, I've tried going out...he's not interested or at least says nothing to indicate interest.
I've read DB, DR, Angry Marriage, 10 Stupid Things couples do to mess up their R, How to Make Love all the Time, CoDependent No More, How We can choose to Be Happy...lots of books.
My H seems determined to rid himself of me. Doesn't call unless he wants sex, or the kids. I have to admit though that I've been too available to him...I always go over when he calls, see him when he gets the kids, call him, write him, etc.
Right now I just feel very hopeless and that I need to get rid of him and move on. This endless torture is not doing much for my self image .
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