"Intimacy, or any kind of connection, physical, emotional isnt there."
I don't know that I would expect it to be there. At some point the WA.. has to turn this stuff off.. in order to walk away. There has to be something to turn it back on. Even if one person really wants it.. it is not usually enough to swing things into motion. This honestly should be the last thing you work on.
I am not sure recommending sex is a great idea.
I still am of the thought that somehow.. someway.. you are saying, doing, something that is rubbing him wrong. This is not a bad thing or is it meant to point the finger at you.. and your shortcomings.. if you have any. It is just one of those things you really need to look at.
"I am always struggling with the same things we all do here:loneliness, missing being held at nights, sweet words and acts, caring, feeling supported, admired, cherished etc etc. And that sucks big time. And I am reaching my limit, I think."
Then for sure what you are doing is not working.. we all get here.. married.. not married.. Divorced.. single.
I say step back.. but don't take it at what it means. You could step back by just doing.. "Maybe I should start dating, afterall, I have nearly all my nights free..."
Dating.. not 100% sure on but I don't see any issue with GAL a bit. Even if another man was involved. Don't know that I would do 1 on 1 but maybe group dating or something like that.
The general idea and thoughts I get from him and what he is thinking is he is scared of screwing this up. To the point it has him stuck in "fear". I "see" the actions all over the place.
I am not sure "fear" is the best word.. but it fits. I see you realizing this some when you say "he thinks I will never be pleased".
You know he is not a "action" person.. and he seems to "drag his feet". Kinda like a kid after they have been walking for a long time and they want you to carry them.. and you say "No.. you can walk." They fall down and moan and groan.. till you pick them up and carry them.. or.. you walk away and make them think you are gonna leave them.
You can't allow the situation you find yourself in.. drag you down. You have to make smart choices for you. IF you start getting sucked in.. stop and think. Not about the situation.. or what you can do to change it.. just think about you and what is best for you.
The trip seems OK.. if it happens it happens. Don't go expecting it to suck.. cause it will if you do that. He at the very least is trying.. even if he has it 100% wrong.
