Decided to try and detach (basically ignore H), as much as I can. He e-mailed me that he got the Xmas gift I left on his desk from D28 (made sure he was not there when I delivered it), ignored it.
Went to meeting today, H starts walking over to sit next to me, I turn my head and start to talk to my friend next to me and he turns around and walks to the other side of the table. I never acknowledged him.
Meeting ends up being cancelled -- I am first out the door, and never looked back.
This is all a real 180 for me, because I find myself still trying to connect to him and right now there is nothing to connect since this OW has such a pull on him.
After our last conversation (fight) and he said "move on just accept I do not love you anymore" and I called him dog poop, I can no longer DB without bringing out bad emotions. Need to stay detached for awhile.
Still waiting to hear the effect of exposing at work.
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
