Advice please...

[Ready2Change]

Changes in you can be as big or small as you want.

I like the 180's. They are big changes that I want to make. They feel uncomfortable at first, but with practice they become part of me.

I rarely shopped for clothes during the R. I go shopping weekly now. I may not buy anything, but I look for clothes that I like. I look for good deals. I have bought 3 new suits in the last month. Can't wait to wear them. All new jeans, shirts. New Jackets, hats. Macey's is going out of business. I got great deals there. I shop at ROSS. There are 50 women and three men in the store. I smile at all the ladies. I focus on making eye contact with all of them. I pay attention to the see if the check me out a second time (A sign that they find me interesting enough for a second look). I compliment everything about people that I like. I remember most peoples names now. I remember details about them. I spend time in the morning making sure I look my best. Longer time shaving, picking out stylish and matching clothing. Look in the mirror and practice my flirting smile. Hold doors open for other people. Enjoy every moment of the day. Savor every interaction with others....I could go on and on.

My Ex has noticed. I have changed. The last baby step from her behavior was a quick smile when she saw me at church. I get my good byes than at the beginning of this process. I get more eye contact from W.

Do not focus on W's behavior. Just be very aware of the small changes over time. I own my happiness. W owns hers. I am happy no matter how W is.