I think you are doing GREAT!!! Go back in the archive of yellowrose's threads in 2007! Your H is doing pretty much the same thing that her H did before he finally came home to stay. He did go back and forth in and out of the house. And he expressed the same type of guilt feelings like your H is doing now!
I think you are definitely on the right track and you just need to be patient a little more.
I really envy you!!!
TJ
Me45,H49 D24,S18 M26,T28 Bomb 3/19/08 Sep 6/23/08 EA/PA with Secretary 2007-8 3/2009 H moved in w/OW2 7/2009 Let him go w/Love. 8/2009 Legally Sep'd