Diane, I just wanted to say that I am still praying for your situation. We both share this awful dilemma of whether to stay and fight for our M's or just give up the fight and go.
I am still wrestling with how to tell my W in a way that gets through to her. Tell it in a way so that she finally understands what this means to the survival of our marriage. Indeed it is no easy task. My W is very much like your H. If I try hard to change things, she feels pressured. If I back off and pull away from her, she thinks everything is fine again between us... Maybe fine for her but then I am going crazy.
I feel your sadness Diane because I know how hard this is to go through. Maybe soon we will find our answers to how we will move forward in our lives.... with or without them.
