You're in control of your happiness, not someone else. You are the who can erase what is left of those feelings by letting them go.
Taking time to heal is a good thing. Not looking for love or perfection is another. Learn to laugh and enjoy yourself. I never ever thought I could go this long without sex. But I can and will until the time is right. It all starts in the mind.
With everything I've learned I want it all. With time, I'll know what I need, what is most important.
You're a good, wonderful, witty, engaging, handsome man.
Enjoy.. Feel good knowing yourself.. you're worth it!