This Is Your Life

[ernest88]

Thanks for all the differing opinions and outlook on things..

I take them all into consideration...and appreciate it.

This is how this will work..Yes..I've seen VST41 quite a bit over the last week..I saw her last night..she drove down to see me and attend the ballgame..she has made it quite clear that this is a two way street and she will put forth the effort to investigate what possibilities there may be in all this. I am quite confidwent in what I'm doing at the moment and she sees that confidence in me..as a matter of fact she likes it..she also likes me in the lead..so I'm leading..and she is with me. She feels safe...

taking it slow is a matter of opinion..seeing each other, talking on the phone and keeping the "physical aspect" out of it IMO is slow...and I'll continue to keep that up...

i've made plans for us for some stuff this weekend...I made the plans..and she likes that..she loves it as a matter of fact and is quite pleased that I took the lead and made those plans..she likes a strong confident man and that's what she is getting..

so my intention is to keep going at "our" pace and see where this goes...without all these other distractions..we are a good match..We both see where we fit each other well and both are looking for any red flags that may pop up..we look good together....

no flowers..yet

I get Caleigh today..hopefully..she is a little sick and if she gets worse then I'm going to let her stay with Kim and get her tomorrow maybe..

I'm going to church Sunday morning.. first time in a long time..just to throw some more things into my life so I can be a bit more balanced..

I feel pretty good right now...my life is good..

[ernest88]

that's odd..I posted here with a response but it appears that the post has been taken down??

there was nothing bad in it..it just disapeared..

[BobbiJo]

Mike

I like the things you are doing. Sounds good. I think going to church is great.

And I can relate to VST liking a man who can step up and take initiative. My H never seemed to get that about me, that I am a "traditional"-type girl and want the man to be the man. Call me crazy but I enjoy having the door opened for me, having the guy pay for dinner, etc. In our marriage a big issue was that I expected him to lead and he thought that made me weak.

Sorry I digress there...

It is clear that you have developed a good internal radar system through all of this. If you see no red flags, then good for you buddy.

[Kalni]

I just want to say that I am happy to see you still have that innocent, romantic side in you, that the divorce didnt make you "bitter"... (I was worried there for a while about you)

I am happy for you Mike. Whatever this is/could become, makes you feel really good naturally and that speaks volumes...
xxx
K

Ohh and I totally agree with you not "dating" other women at the same time. Kerry made a good point about making her feel disrespected if she found out. I would too.

[mishka422]

Sounds great Mike.

[ernest88]

I just want to say that I am happy to see you still have that innocent, romantic side in you, that the divorce didnt make you "bitter"... (I was worried there for a while about you)

Oh I know you were..and you did not truly believe me when I said i would not be..

I've always had that romantic side and now it seems to be apprecaited and I'm told it is and shown...so that'sa a good thing..we are both aware that this could be totally screwed up if we rush into things..so we are going at our own pace..and we are both having lots of fun..

[Phoenixdeux]

i've made plans for us for some stuff this weekend...I made the plans..and she likes that..she loves it as a matter of fact and is quite pleased that I took the lead and made those plans..she likes a strong confident man and that's what she is getting..

Sure, she says that now. In 10 years she'll think you are controlling.

I'll respectfully agree with Arthur. Do what you are doing and go out with friends instead of other girls. You like her. She likes you. I really don't get how you develop a relationship into possibly more while exploring a bunch of other options. Sounds like a good way to lose a good girl. Just because there are other fish in the sea doesn't mean you have to catch them all and then decide which to keep. You can quit fishing for awhile when you think you may have found a keeper. You can always fish again later if she wasn't.

[Phoenixdeux]

i've made plans for us for some stuff this weekend...I made the plans..and she likes that..she loves it as a matter of fact and is quite pleased that I took the lead and made those plans..she likes a strong confident man and that's what she is getting..

Sure, she says that now. In 10 years she'll think you are controlling.

I'll respectfully agree with Arthur. Do what you are doing and go out with friends instead of other girls. You like her. She likes you. I really don't get how you develop a relationship into possibly more while pursuing other women. Sounds like a good way to lose a good girl. Just because there are other fish in the sea doesn't mean you have to catch them all and then decide which to keep. You can quit fishing for awhile when you think you may have found a keeper. You can always fish again later if she wasn't.

Also, FYI VST is too much like VSD.

[Phoenixdeux]

whoops

[SteveInTN]

Sure, she says that now. In 10 years she'll think you are controlling.

LOL, that was worth saying twice!