Oh I see K! Ok.. well, its just that "be the greener grass" stuff, but I am not sure that makes any difference anymore. He is with Helen for whatever reasons he needs to do that, nothing to do with me!
Wow Saffie! Have you been in this position yourself? I have.. I had an EA/PA.. I was obsessed with him, I felt like I was going mad, I loved my ex but I couldnt 'see' him anymore. I wanted to be free, I couldnt describe it logically, but I wanted to be on my own, so I made him move out. We didnt break up though, perhaps because I am sensible, or female, or wanted my cake and eat it quite honestly. So.. I've been the WAS, but I know it was about my childhood conditioning (my Mum told me from 7 not to let a man get the better of me, dont get M).. I was having my commitment tested. It took me 2 1/2 years to get through it.
Things are never so black and white. He has left every gf he dated since 15, bar 1 and he didnt stay in contact with any of them. I know 3 of them.. when he was done, he was done. When you say "stuff that he no doubt doesn't think twice about."..the therapists I have needed to speak to this year say that he IS thinking about his communication with me, in that he is being very controlling and needing to retain power.
I dont think you can 'tell' anyone to forget someone and move on thuogh, they have to arrive at that conclusion in their own time. You're probably right though, he may never come back, but I have to get there myself! Its not difficult to read your post and thanks, but I dont agree this isnt MLC, it has all the ingredients!
