Ali, you are right, my 'lying by omission' does not even compare!! if he brings it up I will be open but if he doesn't, it doesn't need discussing really.

Hey Sandy, thank you so much for stopping by and giving your input, I really appreciate it!

I am pretty happy in my life at the moment (apart from a brief January blues spell last week). And I think I will be happier once I am away from the house and memories, although it will be sad and hard letting go.

I also think you are right when you say this
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I was going to live the rest of my life happy....with him or without him

I am really feeling this at the moment. I don't miss him anymore, I don't long for him but I do still very deep down love him and believe in my marriage.

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Was I sad over losing my family..you bet ya. But I don't want to be sad forever

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I figured if I was moving on with my life and he decided he would return that would be good (but he gambled on that because I wasn't going to wait forever) and if he never returned..... well that was his loss and our childrens.

I found what you said here *really* helpful.

I suppose the problem is in not being available when he calls, texts, or wants to meet up is that he never calls, never suggests a meet up and barely texts! I do wait before responding, much more than I used to. You're right though it seemed to work... more in my next post. \:\)


M- May 2006
D - Aug 2010
Now travelling the world