Whatever, "I feel like a traitor to the troops when I write that, as I read the struggles of all of you as you continue to stand for your marriages." You must never feel like that. People like most things come in all shapes and sizes. All marriages are different and we all know what is and is not healthy for us,also what type of marriage we can live in. After along time on this board I have come to realise that some people are willing to have little to no boundaries for the sake of being m. Not healthy. Going dim is for you to regroup (or not) but certainly for you to get yourself well,happy and healthy (healing) it is not intended to shock your h or get him to change course although it can happen. It takes courage to go dim and be ok regardless of the outcome. Congratulations on getting new activities, the triggers take some time to come to terms with but you are certainly on the right path.
