...and someone kindly sent me something very interesting, which is pertinent to my sitch (and many others, T you would find it interesting, and Kalni too, from a different perspective, of how your H is making you feel perhaps?) its... Cognitive dissonance. Its worth googling for more info.
I think whats going on with me and him, is in part to DO with me and him and our long standing best friendship/affection/harmonious R which is hard for him to let go of, neverlone me.. but also, in part to do with DBing.. that I worked hard to banish the negative sides of my personality that had overtaken me and got back to who I used to be, for myself really (as it didnt make me happy being that negative, unhappy, stay at home ill person I had become for a few years there).
But these things combined have made his decision to leave me less clear cut and left him with dissonance! Question is, how do I make use of that and build on his confusion?
