Karen, I agree - my XW is someone different now. I don't really know her anymore.
G - how you doing man? Hope all is well. Saw the pix of the house - looks like it's coming along.
Steve - thanks for your advice. It really helps to read that and you have a great way of saying things succinct and to the point.
Hey Mike - Beer? I got a SELECTION of beers. Wasn't it something like landshark or something you were always asking for? I don't know - you guys on the east coast drink some weird sh*t. Here, have what I'm drinking - Knob Creek whiskey.
Hey Kerry! Been checking on you though haven't posted. Sounds like your love life has kicked back in. Hope you're doing well!
I'm glad to be taking the time I'm taking for myself because more and more I realize I wasn't the person I wanted to be. Saw a great movie tonight - "Benjamin Button". I think it's a movie all DBers should see. First, it drives home the point that just because you love someone doesn't mean you're meant to be with them throughout your entire life. You come together in the periods in which you were meant to be together and when it's time to move on, be happy for the good memories, sad for the parting, and optimistic about your own future as an individual. It also underlines the message that we all need to take stock of our lives now and then and see if it isn't perhaps time to make some changes. No one wants to get stuck. To live a worthwhile life, we need to ensure that we are not only doing things we love, but doing things that continue to challenge and invigorate us. Emerson walked the same trails over and over yet continually found something new to discover and became one of America's greatest writers. He could have easily been lulled into complacency and no longer looked for something new in the familiar, or even worse, decided the path wasn't worth walking again since he'd already walked it. We all benefit by discovering the life around us, and if we can't see that life, it's time to make changes. That's the essence of DB for me.
lodo
PS - Steve, I should mention that it was the conversations for me because our sex life was lousy. Always was. XW doesn't know what she likes, didn't like to talk about it, and generally never got into it too much. Never initiated. After awhile I gave up on trying.
I was with another woman when my XW broke up with me 9 years ago (before we were married) and the experience was incredible. So I DEFINITELY look forward to finding out what being able to "feel" the one you love feels like!
