Was that a speedbump or a milestone?

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And S, one other point:

If you read Another Web Site with Marriage advice, the fact that you are re-entering into conflict with her could be a good thing. You would have to get those issues back out to get back to an intimate relationship.

You have made progress.

It's when you are shut down and withdrawn from one another (as unfortunately I am w/H) that things are most problematic.