CGZ, Your X is a mess. To forgive him and move forward, you have to realize that.....

"WORDS come easy, especially for someone that has learned how to use them. ACTIONS are the things that catch us by surprise"

Yup. I am all about seeing actions, too.

I think you need to do exactly what you said. It is business now--collect what he owes you. Do not be too nice.

M: 16 years
Bomb 4/07
OW 20s long gone
Divorced 11/09
I remarried New Guy
Cooperative r w/X regarding D