Was that a speedbump or a milestone?

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Ah, Sleeper, I feel in a similar boat, although I think your W has gradually come to have a better view of you than H has had of me, and you have seen more signs of hope and progress than I have.

You do need to start acting as if you are divorced. But you can make it friendly if possible.

Would you just walk in to a friend's house? Do not just go into her place again. If I were you, I'd turn the key over and simply say "I don't want to invade your privacy and I don't want to get between you and OM."

That should be a 180.

I also think about dating. I am realizing I have a very shaky sense of self now, and I want to come out of it.