Hey Rob! Yes, Jody tells me I am STILL in stage 1 - reducing negative emotions and guilt and yes, I dont want to write back straight away perhaps, although I want to keep the dialogue going?
Hey GFI.. yes, I wasnt expecting it, I was shocked! And pleasantly surprised at his tone. I think the brilliant thing is, that without the 'hook' of M or kids, I am still managing to keep him interested, just by being me! I have managed to reconnect with him via music, thats how all this started, back in January 1996 and as we both like to keep up with new music (and Helen clearly isnt !!) this is a great, light, neutral, but valuable way for us to connect. And I can tell I have impressed him, I am more 'up to date' than he is!
Hey Cyrena, thanks for your clarity, once again. I guess he is implying he will phone me. But yes, NO idea when and still all on his terms hey. He's meeting BMF on Thursday apparently, to talk. I'm glad he is using this wingman as his confidante, as this guy is pretty astute and was the first (and only male) friend to tell me he thought my ex was in MLC and in crisis and to wait for him to come out of it eventually..
No.. I couldnt cope with him coming home and leaving again, no way! I would rather wait until I get that calm look in his eye, thats been gone for about 2 years now, yes. I still feel certain that he is NOT in love with Helen, it wont last with her, but I am still the old sensible lifetime option he is running from. I really do want to iron out these lows that are still washing over me at times.
What did you mean when you said "And the closer they are to being "done," the faster they cycle." - closer to being done as in, over MLC ? He is still "up and down" with depression, he said before Christmas.
