Hi nlt, Thanks. Yes, I really enjoyed the time we had together with the boys. I saw them once in the 2 weeks. Even though I wish I could have seen more of them, I am grateful for the time we had.
All, I want to share about this book I have been reading "The Power Of A Woman's Words" by Sharon Jaynes. Highly recommended.
what's new in your sitch, if anything? Any 180s and GAL? Hope all is well. j-
Last edited by 25yearsmlc; 01/13/0905:37 AM.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Hi 25yearsmlc, Thanks so much for your support. I didn't realize that you followed my thread. It's an encouragement to me.
Quite a bit has happened behind the scenes that I didn't know about until 2 weeks ago. When my H and boys visited, the beans got spilled by accident. It slipped out that there is and has been OW at least since this summer. I don't know how long for sure.
I asked him, he admitted. He said he was only seeing OW, and not serious - not sure what that means. The R talk that followed went calmy.
I have been processing alot emotionally and mentally, and am trusting God in the situation. I have been compassionate to my H and have continued to love him and pray for him and OW.
He still said he doesn't see us getting back together. He knows that I am praying for him and his family. He was moved and thanked me for it.
I know that only God can change his heart so I keep praying, and loving him from a distance.
Just wondering why you told him you are praying for him and OW. I mean, that is pursuing, and it's also between you and the big Guy.
What are you doing to GAL? You don't want your h to pity you. I know of zero h's to return to their wives from pity, and then to remain. Zero. Most flee at the thought of guilt or pity as it is a turn off and frequently leads to anger on their part. Odd, but true.
You want to attract, and that means showing the appealing sides of you and a life with you. Make sense? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
25, No I didn't tell him I was praying for OW. I told him I was praying for him, kids and family to know God because I care about their eternal destiny. I don't see it as pursuing. I don't think he saw me as pitiful. He was just worried that I was never going to be with somone else.
I am GAL, not pining. I just didn't go into details here.
Why would he think you'll never be with someone else? You're a great catch, right? Maybe he needs to know that you could be with someone else, maybe he's sending out feelers OR maybe he wants to not feel guilty that you are alone and waiting.
So, again, why would he think you'll always be alone? j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
I am so sorry to hear about the OW. I know how much that must have hurt you. Please remember you are stronger now than you were in the beginning and you can deal with this because you have done so much work on yourself.
Keep at it. I know there is a bright future just waiting around the corner for you. It's there as soon as you are ready for it.
Cheers, V
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
Why would he think you'll never be with someone else? You're a great catch, right?
25, Because earlier last year, I told him I meant my marriage vows and that I was praying for God to heal our marriage. Yes, he knows I am a great catch. It's a choice thing on my part to take my marriage vows seriously and not give up when things got tough.
I am so sorry to hear about the OW. I know how much that must have hurt you. Please remember you are stronger now than you were in the beginning and you can deal with this because you have done so much work on yourself.
Keep at it. I know there is a bright future just waiting around the corner for you. It's there as soon as you are ready for it.
Hi Virginia, So nice to hear from you. Thanks for your kind words and your understanding. They mean so much.
Yes, I am alot stronger now and can deal with this, with strength from God. I trust that He will give me all that I need to get through this journey like with everything else in life. I know there is a good reason for this and someday I will find out. In the meantime, I know how much I am learning and healing from my very distant past hurts.
