I'm preparing to completely detach. I have the rest of the month to get myself ready for this. I gave my W a letter this morning asking her to make a commitment to our M and stay in the home with me, but I strongly suspect I already know her answer. I asked her to take a few days to think and pray about it, but she called me just 2 hours later to discuss the letter. I said I didn't want to discuss it yet, and that I preferred it if she would pray and think for the next few days. She agreed. I still love her very much, which is why I can't be with her like this. I absolutely won't share her--I just won't. It's all or nothing for me. Just like God wants us to love him above all else, and just like I wouldn't share being a father to my daughter with another man, I won't share my W. I feel that if she moves out and can't give me a commitment than I need to have absolutely no contact w/her unless it's is regarding our daughter, and even then it must be brief and to the point. If she leaves our home again and can't commit to working on things, I want to have NO contact w/her unless she wants to reconcile with me. Period. This isn't about revenge or guilt, it's really about love. For me to continue in a friendship with her after this would mean that that's enough for me, and it simply isn't, so I can't do that. Anyone else feel that way??
