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He thinks that I am kidding myself that I could be happy with him since he does not want to give anything to me.


This is something stbx said to me in Oct when we were talking more. He said he felt guilty he couldn't provide for me and that he didn't have the time to give me what I deserved (emotional connection, doing things together, etc) b/c building his music career was the most important thing to him. He said he could tell that my resentments built up toward him b/c I wasn't getting fulfilled and he understood that's why I was angry at him. He came to this realization after we were apart 3 months.

This burns in my head. On the one hand it makes me feel like wow, he's pretty much telling me he knows he's not good enough for me. On the other hand, my heart goes out to him and I want to somehow show him I always did think "he was good enough" He has been "my hero" before, but the problem is how would he give me what I need again now. Could I really influence him enough to change? Any advice?


DBer since 2003
D - 3/24/09
GAL and DBing for myself