Hey there... I think we do know its been a tough decision, its obvious, although we cant 'know' as we are not in your head or heart, but it clearly has been. And its a horrible thing to have happened, at the same time like that.
Perhaps with the weekend away, he didnt want to CANCEL if you couldnt find a babysitter, so being a typical bloke (they like to take action, find practical solitions? My ex did anyway!) he offered to take them along and iwth another couple for fun?
As for the lack of intimacy, I have no idea why that is! Perhaps he is a little afraid, is he one of those guys that cant do it when emotionally he doesnt feel connected? I like that you sent him the Love Language stuff.. but again, being a man, maybe this kind of woolly R talk sailed over his head!?? (men dont like that kind of R theorising do they?) And if you sent it to work (?) he was probably too damn busy to take it in!
How about you try talking to him about it? I hope he does write a letter to you, as it will be illuminating at least, like you say, he is a journalist and perhaps better at expressing himself via written word. Again.. its time though isnt it, when is he going to find the time to do it!?
I have an idea...perhaps if he doesnt, you could go 'on strike' after your weekend away! Tell him he cant come around and see you until he writes the damn letter, lol! Ok, thats very antiDB, but why not?!
I like Sandys points in that, there are things we can accept or compromise on, for M sake, but perhaps you needed the honeymoon period first before you start giving him more rope again hey!
So.. how are the plans for the babysitter coming along? And did you see I got an email? He isnt much further forwards...I think he is a tortoise.. a sleeping tortoise.. with 2 broken legs and facing the wrong direction...if I had made it to piecing I am sure my ex would move even slower than your H! If that were possible...
