I do think that you need to go dark a bit more. Although you want H to still be involve in your D life, do it for now. He like my H wants to have his cake and eat it too. After my wonderful night with H on Sat, on Sunday I just didn't call him, I bet he was waiting for me to call but I didn't. Then on Monday, he called and I call him back, then Monday night he called again but I ignored his call. Today, neither of us have called which is good. I know after Sat that H does love and miss me b/c we have had really limited contact and he showed very good signs of missing our old life. He just has shown no remorse and nope he hasn't yet mentioned coming back home. But, I don't want to give him the idea that all is well because we are now talking. He needs to know that he has really hurt me. This is our 3rd separation!! The second one I left and he followed, so you can imagine how tired I am of the yoyo. So, good luck and change things up for your H, quite doing more of the same. He's not living with you so things should be different. And, I'm trying to remind myself that as Michele said, if we revert too quickly, they will revert as well. So it has to be a long range change. I need it to sink into him. I really hope I don't sucker in b/c I think I'm so weak for this man.
