HI Poohbear,

Yes, whenever there is someone else interested in me, my H gets really spiked up. But I've always been the fool trying to be good and playing the nice girl. So I think I will try this one for the long haul and not give in b/c I think my H needs a shake up. Its been too safe for him and I just don't like him thinking of me as always being available. When he first left home, he was not into the relationship. Was not calling, nada. And now I think his interest has been spiked again but I just hate the fact that he can just return just like that. And although I want my life back, it really doesn't settle right with me that he thinks he can just roll right back in. I feel really sure that if I don't give him a run for his moeny, he will do the same thing again. So I'm going to give this a try. I'm a bit nervous and go back and forth at times but then I remember what Michele says that the only mistake is to do more of the same that hasn't been working. So we'll see how this goes this weekend. I like the idea of "creating" other friend because although I am fairly attractive I am so not interested in other guys right now, and also my strong religious commitment would make me feel guilty, but there is no guilt for a imaginary friend right. I need H to compete for me darn it. And adding this to my limited contact, I'm hoping will work some magic. Will see.