Feeling...empty. # 53

[sandycay]

or maybe he's waiting to tell you this weekend when you are alone. FWIW .. you can't pass on the other advice. That's a pretty big part of being married. If you both are wanting this to work out it should be quite natural....what do you think?

Also, on the business about him writing you a letter. That's an unfair spot to put him in. He's doomed if he doesn't write it, why because you think he should...that's called expectations. You write him a letter and expect him to write back..you are setting him up for failure. Just because he doesn't write back it doesn't mean he doens't love you or want you.

Kalni your either in or your out. Your waffling as much as he is. This is a 2x4 because it seems like no matter what he does .. he can't please you. Now I say all this with the knowledge that he has been a sh$t for over a year. At some point you are going to have to forgive and move past that and forward or move on. This piecing isn't for the waffling types because it's hard already.

PS: so no one 2x4's me, cause we all like the Sunshine. I know that Kalni has been trying to restore this marriage and her H was a day late and a dollar short in coming home but she said she was willing to give it a go but with lots of expectations that he is not meeting. Are they unreasonable .. I think not but he may not know how to move forward and may need her to extend herself once again and make this weekend meaningful.
For instance: I tell my H quite often my LL is words of affirmation.... does he fill this sometimes I think not and then I tell him I need more words.... and he reminds of things he said that I totally missed. I am just trying to look at this from another perspective.

Kalni H planned a weekend away, not a weekend with dreaded sister in law or with kids,.... just him and her alone. I thought Kalni wanted that .... you said you did....now he's done that but something else is not right about that... do you see that pattern here.


I swear I am not trying to beat up on you or say this is your fault....I am just posing another point of view....not even neccassarily mine.

I hope I got my point across sometimes I find it hard to type into words that make sense.