- "he told me he thinks we are moving in a positive direction and that he wants to continue to work on things with me and work towards him coming home"
- "He did say he doesn't want to get a divorce and he doesn't think it is the right thing for us"
That is fantastic! I'm so happy you got to hear those words! But I do agree with you that you need to watch things carefully and make sure it's not a way to continue to cake eat. He's talked the talk. Now he needs to walk the walk. Have you started to think about how YOU need for things to progress going forward, a mental outline of sorts?
You and your husband are going through a huge trauma in your married lives. This won't turn around on a dime. I think you'll have to be very patient, not push for immediate action, and be prepared for some setbacks. Baby steps comes to mind.
And I agree completely w/ sandycay. He needs to admit his affair, and take steps to end it completely and permanently. And you need to think about what you will need from him to believe that it is over.
Not the greatest of days for me, and I don't know why. I just need to do what you've done. I thought I was past the fear, but the truth is, I'm SO SCARED of the answer. I think I'm as ready as I'll ever be for a divorce, but hearing her say she's leaving and filing is something I can barely think about.
sandycay, I'm going to start reading your story tonight. I'm really intrigued by the advice of your coach and IC. I think my wife needs a taste of what D will really be like. Her view is fantasy in my opinion, and I'm bending over backwards and letting her walk all over me.
newgal, again, I couldn't be happier for you! I hope this is the first of many positive steps forward for you.
