Fix, I think my H has always had some sense of the damage to his reputation. There are times I have thought it is a big part of what kept him from making the final leap when it was all fresh.

FG, sunny and subzero here today. I hope H cleared snow from the yard but if he didn't at least I have 4WD.

Hey Jeff, you didn't get me down - maybe more frazzled about how to get you mooooooving! I still want to know what you are doing different now in the new year. List please 1,2,3.....
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Each one of us must make our own decision if and when to cut.

And happiness is the key. Are you happy? If not, how can you change that?
Deciding to decide. I just went thru that exercise (again). I want change, but I don't want to force the decision. There is a very fine difference, so fine it is like frogs hair. I am getting change, little by little. Considering my H is a very proud and extremely stubborn man I think this is progress.

As for being happy, I've been saying I am about as happy as I can get in all the other departments of my life except for H. I think that is still true. Can I still improve? sure. I know that too many of my emotions still hinge on H's actions. I don't know how to stop that while we are in the same house while I still have the visual.
The H department is better than it was but no where good enough yet. Will it ever be the fairy tale version again? not for a long time if ever. I don't know if I will ever trust again as naivly as I did. AND, as we know, I can't change him.
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Only five women? There is more than enough of me to go around.

And make sure some are single - I always get lucky when I serve my homemade lasagna
You've got a date the 3rd week of March buddy! We are all married though, you'll have to revise your version of lucky! BTW, we'll bring our own wine. Do you want that lasagna with or without horses? ;\) You could have a pony party for your daughter.

Live your life while you are still living.
Riding the trail less traveled.