I hear ya on the credit crunch Arthur. It's a complete disaster here too. I hope the news isn't too bad. A cut in pay would be preferable to being out of work entirely, right?
Take care.
Well, not great news really, letting bout 45% go from June, but I get a decent redundancy if one of those. With the new job like 45 mins to an hour away anyway (I've yet to move to new office due to project I'm on), I'm happy to take a gamble and take the package (if it is what it seems, trying to speak to union now) and take my chances. Couple of months off in the summer, means I can take my boys away, go for mates 40th and then come back and start over. Just seems perfect timing for me with everything that has happened in the last 18 months...Completes the fresh start if you like.
Seeing MOT35 again tonight. She's coming over as got mates house for the week. Think my super happy jokey is confusing her a bit and she is not totally with it, but as said previously, this is me, I like me, so am just going with the flow.
Sorry about the job sitch Arthur but it sounds like it might actually end up being a blessing in the end. If the severance package is as good as it seems then you would gain invaluable time with your boys, right? That would be awesome for you!
Keep us posted.
T19 M15 S19 XH47 M43 bomb12/4/07 PA5/07 S12/26/07 D final 11/17/08 Back together with no defined R 05/2010 confused....to say the least!!!
I noticed you mentioned that you are not comfrotable dating or seeing more than one woman at once. i wonder if this is becoming an underlying theme here. LBSs are TOO nice with their women????? HMMM worth thinking about....alright enough already...to all us nice guys....may we all finish first, or at least in the medals!!!
Arthur--Not much good as I have been up from 4:00 a.m. and winding down now. Just catching up, saw you posted on my thread and reciprocating. If you are clear in conscience then it probably seems like the OK thing to do, but if you have any doubts about MOT35 then maybe hold off until she is out of that M completely. Tough to know, you could pull away and she pursues and that is not a good spot to be in either. It is definitely a slippery slope. I have two female friends with troubled marriages that are now chatting me up online and I have to keep them at arm's length. I don't want to end up being the parachute they reach for in bailing out of a M that might be saved. You are smart and level-headed, play it cool and stay out of OM country. Sorry about the job thing. Just chatting up a friend on FB and she is worried she might lose her job. This bad economy seems to be spreading to more people I know everyday. Hopefully it will all work out for the best. Sending encouraging thoughts your way! Cheers!
M42 S12/D9 T17/M12 Bomb 1 3/22/06 Bomb 2 7/11/08 Bomb 3 7/31/08 W Filed 8/1/08 D granted 12/17/08 D Finalized 1/29/09
A man who compromises his principles never had them in the first place.
Cheers guys, always appreciate any comments. Apologies if I don't always write back I often get there to late and I would just be echoing others thoughts.
Had nice night last night. MOT35 is really opening up to me about stuff lately and trusting me with stuff which she seemed really scared to do. Watched a bit of TV, few drinks etc and was fun, she coming around again Sat night.
Turns out her friend who I met Friday is telling her to dump me so she can have me....lol
Not much new to report on Divorce stuff. Still doing really well and feels like old hat now. Nothing STBX says or does really affects me, nothing seems to be moving forward with D except she did send me a nasty text first thing Friday threatening I either have the boys overnight for 1 weekend a month or she will stop my access....Erm, think you should not of put that in writing sweetheart as A) I am 99.9% sure you cannot and will not stop my access and B) the way it's written might go against you !!! So I ignored it and she rang me, but driving so said would speak later. She rang again later so said, I'll speak to my sols, but not yet done. Can't be bothered, she can do all the work now as I'm to busy enjoying my life and don't need to go incur sols costs if not necessary.
Seen MOT35 a bit this week as got mates house. Really nice evening togethe Sat night (to much vodka) and couple of short visits since. Going well, but I'm still not sure where it's going. However, like Mike, I'm being a good boy now and giving it a chance although there is some missing spark there I think. Not sure if that is just previous R making me put up a wall, me thinking this could be a secret thing for a long time or what. Just go with it for now as it's fun, were both enjoying it and I honestly think if it didn't work out we'd remain friends as we have such a laugh.
Still doing fine. No real changes in my life, few interactions with STBX but comedy more than anything. Think she suspects I'm seeing someone but I swerve the subject without being obvious in doing so.
Seem to be seeing a lot of MOT35 and it's going scarily well. Really didn't see this coming at all and she is soooooooooooo into me which I don't really get. I think I still have a bit of a confidence thing deep down though anyone that knows me would say differently I'm sure. Still dont overly like all the secrecy but it's the only way right now, not sure how long til that changes but we are spending time together so ok.
Soooooooooooo need to get my own place still but renting so expensive it drives me mad
W thinks I'm seeing someone, but it is the wrong person and a good friend of mine from work. It's quite amusing really as FFW29's ex also thinks something has happened between us. Anyway, I find it quite amusing as does FFW29 so we fired up some suggestive status comments on FB knowing her friends can see.....ha ha
Also notice letter addressed to her sols left out for me to see last night so the peace of the last month might be about to end....fun fun fun !!
