I know we are often advised here not to instigate R talks, but I do not see any bad results for yur having done it.
No 2x4 from me. You asked a question and she gave, what seems to me, to be a fairly positive answer. Then, you left it alone.
As for being a fixer. I do not think anything you did was fixer behavior. You are entitled to an opinion on things. I think it was supportive to tell her she has a lot on her.
Terrific nres about seeing your son for the Chinese New Year. I am happy for you!
