As agreed with Dan I talked to the school counselor at my school today. He knows Nathan as he goes into his classroom once a week. Dan and I agreed to follow his advice on when to tell the kids.
He says tell them now. Don't wait until Dan has his house all re-done. Otherwise he will get suspicious and try to figure out what is going on all on his own. It actually felt good b/c everything I talked to the counselor about, it sounded like he agreed with my thoughts on how to approach things. Even on what we tell them.
H was wanting to tell them that he was unhappy and needed some time and space to be happy again. I told H that Nathan would assume he was the reason for H's unhappiness and he had to leave us to be happy which meant he had to leave Nathan to be happy. H said no way that isn't what I mean at all. I said I know but that is how a 6 year old will interpret it.
Counselor said i was right on. I said we should tell the kids mommy and daddy are having trouble getting along and we need a break. Just like Nathan sometimes needs a break from a friend if they have been arguing. That it has nothing to do with him or sissy, that mommy and daddy just need to take a break so we can try to learn how to get along. Counselor said that was a good way to say it.
So I am thinking we tell Nathan on Saturday. I would rather do it then so his emotions don't interfere with getting his orange karate belt on Friday. That might seem silly but getting his first ever colored belt in karate is a big deal to him and I don't want to mess it up.
