As you said on my post we are definately a lot alike with the cake-eating H's.
As far as "creating" OP....it seems to spike an interest in my H when he thinks someone else is interested. Don't know your H so I am not sure if that would work for you.
But my H is stubborn and even though it may bother him, he NEVER comes out and says that it does. I don't think he would.
But it makes him open his eyes just a bit to seeing the possibility that there might be someone else who would want me and could take me away.
Hang in there, somehow we will manage to get through it all:)
