Partner left after 9 years - He's 'confused' now

[mishka422]

You're doing better and better Ali and I'm so glad to see it. I appreciate your honesty here in sharing your feelings and current emotional state. I find myself holding back a lot here now because I feel I should be coping better with everything in my life. Good for you for not succumbing to that!

Ali, you will love your ex forever - there really is no way around that. True love doesn't ever really die it just changes based on the circumstances. I will love Gabe for the rest of my life, but I know that I can't be with him again in the state he is in now. The person he has become is someone I can't respect or value. That is not the kind of man I need in my life. He is so broken and he needs to find a way to fix himself - find his happiness. I can't do that for him and I'm not going to push him to do it for himself because then it didn't come from his own realizations. You are doing the same for your ex. He is broken, you know it, he knows it, he isn't doing enough right now to help himself but you can't push it. It's a dilemma, but one we all face.

You are such a smart, beautiful, talented lady Ali. I find myself anxious to here what you will be up to next which is why I am here so often (living vicariously I guess!). Keep posting away!

How is your thesis going?