Now She is Questioning!

[Jeff3]

Hey Thanks Trapt and Snoderly

Well I guess it's time to recover from my mistake. I was talking to a friend of mine about the sitch and he described it as this "bad dog want a cookie" I thought brilliant but true. in a perfect world I should have ignored her and not picked up the phone or agreed to go skiing last night.

I was going to cancel skiing last night but she made sure she got off early and came straight home, so I figured why not. We had a fun time and was a positive experience. There was a bit of R talk but I tried to limit it she acknowledged that she treated our marriage badly referring to OM. I just said I am in no position to comment on that you're and adult and make your own decisions. She said that she didn't deserve a friend like me and asked me how I could be so patient. I couldn't think of a brilliant response, playing it safe I said nothing. I find it hard at times to get through these conversations because it's like a chess game and I don't want to make a wrong move AGAIN!

We made small talk and continued skiing. All in all it was a good night. One thing she did say to every ones point was that if her family wasn't so messed up she would probably move there to clear her head. With that in mind you guys are right that I need to back off and give her a chance to miss me.

She was running late this morning and the weather was bad so she had to take the train. She asked me if I would drive her to the train station. I agreed and drove her, she thanked me and gave me a friendly hug. I figured it was a chance to do something like we used to do. I used to take her to the train every morning on my days of and wish her a good day at work. I am going to back off but I didn't want it to look vindictive.

I am going to my parents overnight and will turn my phone off. When I get back I will be working evenings so I won't see her much which should be good. When I am at work I will limit my responses to her if she calls.

I only hope that this weekend didn't blow my hard work but I am determined now to really apply the DB techniques. Time to be get back the confident Jeff, be distant create mystery and not reward bad behavior.