I do feel more compassion now towards my ex than I ever did while the divorce was unfolding. This was a person that we spent many years with, that we had a family with. Eventually the good person in each of us can't help but feel sadness for the mess that they have made of their lives.
And yes, the anger creeps back in still. But at least it's little things now, not things that set you way back like it used to be.
Most of all, moving forward and allowing life to happen, embracing what you have and wringing everything out of it you can...well, it brings healing.
And perspective.
I love my life. My boys are still here close to me. I have a wonderful new woman in my life who I love and who loves me. There is a plan for my future. I never would have thought, in the heat of the battle, that things would be even just ok again, let alone wonderful.
Time. And moving forward. And slowly but surely letting loose of how things USED to be.
That's the ticket.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
