Jeff223 went through the same phases and I need to learn from him.
When many folks were telling me to lose the anger and bitterness, I am glad I did not. It is something you just have to go through. But there comes a point when the anger changes from just being angry to the anger emotion telling you to look within. Why am I angry?
Initially no matter how I responded it all came down to "she makes me angry, she did me wrong, I will never forgive her, bi!ch". But then it finally sinks in that "I make me angry" and that anger serves to tell you that something deep within yourself needs to be addressed.
I am glad you are angry and bitter at times b/c your words here point to the healing process that anger is causing. That is good.
As for your girls, sounds like they are on top of things. In fact, I would venture to say that they feel more secure that you are in fact angry at at the situation. Being angry shows that you love their mom and detest the situation. That sets the example for them of what a caring adult should feel and the importance of family. As long as the anger is focused on the situation, and not their mom as a person, I think that they will do fine. If you were indifferent they would question your feelings for mom - not good.
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Tonight D17.99 told me I was becoming bitter and depressed.
The red flag is the depression. That teaches us nothing but how to run away or self-medicate. Be angry instead.
My anger is finally passing. Maybe it was just getting through the holidays or maybe I just realized that being mad at her is serving no useful purpose. Anger does not fit in my terms as a man.
But to silence the little boy I am glad I let the anger phase run its course. It had to.
