That seems to be the dilemma many of us face -- reconciling the person we married in the beginning to the person they are now. We struggle with the question of whether they, the WAS, really changed into these severe distortions of our spouses we see today (which begs the follow-up question of just how and when this could have happened) ...or were they really like this all along and we were just to blind to see them for what they were/are.
