Thanks for the New Year wishes , probably a bit late but Happy new year to you!
Things have moved along here probably not for the better. Started on Saturday. W would usualy come by Sat evening to have take away dinner with me and the Kids. I was going out and advised her that I was getting picked up by a friend ( Female - same one she reacted to when I dropped D off a few weeks back ).
Anyway got a reply ( by text because thats how she likes to communicate ) It said " of course she is ! you dont go anywhere without her ! she can pick you up at the gate"
I replied : This is where I live and my friends are welcome here anytime.
W replied:" its my house too and I dont want her there !"
To which I replied , you have your own place , you cant control me anymore.
It went down hill from there , several text messages to which I did not reply.
The next day I do the right thing and invite her and D over for dinner ( she has been coming most Sundays uninvited ) she declined.
About mid afternoon I get a message to come pick up my Daughter.
D is in tears , W not speaking. Seems D wanted to come home and W got upset with her. I sat D down later and explained W not angry at her , probably angry at me.
Fast forward to this afternoon . I am working from home at present and D is on holidays. D is watching a movie and I hear W's car drive up , she knocks and D answers door , so i just carry on working , within a minute her car drives off. i go out to see whats up and D is on couch in tears again. This time W came by to pick her up but did not tell D or me . D says she watching a movie and W storms off.
I pick up the pieces again. I also text W and tell her its OK if she wants to hang out here with D . No reply.
This behaviour is wearing me down as its affecting D , but as she wont communicate there is little I can do right now.
Perhaps I cant see the wood for the trees but W thought she was going to able to go out on own to live , yet still have her safe family life when she wanted it. Too an extent I was supportive of that but not to the point of her controlling my actions.
