Def do not listen to the nay sayers. NOT b/c they are necessarily wrong in terms of what will happen, but b/c it does not help you. I mean, if you had a crystal ball that said "it's over" and when, then you'd move on. But you will never have that crystal ball and so, what's the point of giving up until you have to, if that day comes?
When it comes to marriage and divorce, I'd rather stick around a bit too long, than leave a bit too early...
From your comments, it seems you are obsessing a lot. So much energy and time that could be GAL, which is the one thing that might make a diff to her anyhow...
also, you state the obvious when you talk of OM and how he'd have to be gone for a reconciliation...well, of course. Does anyone think otherwise? So, this means you do have clarity but are somehow not seeing it. As long as OM is in the picture, you have to maintain some space. He's in the picture...so there's your answer, for now.
Will he ever be gone? Well, why wouldn't he be gone down the road? What's so great about him that she'd keep him around for good? Let's assume for the moment, that in some undetermined time period he'll be out of the picture. So, what will you have spent that time apart learning and doing? What's new that you are going to bring to the table? I know you want to yell out "A LOT!" and I believe you. But I also see you looping around with the same questions about if, when and why re: the reconciliation.... get the Stop Sign out and use it. Stop the looping around and switch tracks, or take the exit ramp, (or whatever metaphor works here)...
Embrace the ambiguity or be miserable, be here now, not re-hashing the unchangeable past and worrying about a future that may not happen, and that you have no control over anyhow.Maybe What you need to do is turn it over to God and stop taking it back from Him.
(( j ))
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
