However, you can certainly detach and even drop the rope......and there is a difference in those two terms also.
I do realize that I need to detach. Thanks for the explanation about the difference.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Do you believe in dreams like that as well?
No I really do not. I think it may be an old German tradition/wives tell. She and her mother have talked about them before.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Hi Jay, how are things going now?
I am having many up and down days. My W left to go out of town for several weeks. Last Friday I did not want to come home to an empty house and one that if we D I will not have to come home to. When I got home I sat on the couch and cried out loud for ten minutes and was sad the rest of the night.
The next day I went and met my parents and a brother for breakfast and felt much better. I am now working extra hours while my W is out of town. While at home I am reviewing our finances or spending time with a hobby.
Whenever we talk on the phone it seems to me that its like old times. She called me today to ask some electrical questions and I got home too late to call her tonight.
She listened to the first half of the Marriage Breakthrough video over two nights. I feel it would have been better if she had not. I wished she could listen with an open heart to the last part of the video. Maybe some day she will be able to.
I spent over an hour with my IC just before I met my W on her way to the airport to get the car back. She asked me what the IC thought about her. I told her that I spent most of the time talking to the IC. My W was amazed that I could talk that long. My IC says I am in a catch 22. When faced with a choice between doing or not doing something my W will react badly to either.
I told my W that there is a MC in our time that is available through my work. She quickly replied that she really did not want one in our town. I got the impression that she may be willing to meet with a MC with me. I wish we could spend a day with Michele to see if she could help us. I do not believe my W is ready to yet.
My current plan is just to be a good friend with my W and see what we can do together to have fun. No touching, no M/R talk, no talk about the past or future. No intimacy phys or emotional is the plan. I hope I can do the above while detaching.
She heard about the DB forums from the video. I not sure if she has tried to find me here. I not sure how much and at what level I should journal here from now on. Any Ideas? I am not sure how she will react to my first post.
I asked her what her purpose was in sleeping in a different room. Her reply was so she could separate from me. She asked me what my purpose was to mention it before she said she was going to do it. I know I asked the question here in a post and I do not remember doing it in bed with her.
I wish she would come back even if it is on the condition I do not touch her or start any conversations in the morning. I not sure I should ask her.
