Msm,

Thanks for keeping in touch. So much of what you say makes sense. Yes, I was a bit of a rescuerer.

I have read some websites dedicated to rape victims, but only a few are helpful in my situation.

It makes sense what you say about my W having so many emotions that she doesn't know what to do. It seems that she has never resolved any relationship conflict healthily in her life and they all came to a head before she dropped the bomb.

She has said that she is not looking for a new relationship, though she has flirted with some guys.

Sometimes she tries me to the very limit, thought I have gained much from my involvement on this site in regards to not reacting and dealing with her confusing statements.

She was acting crazy again tonight, seemed it was about $$$. We have some $$ that is being reimbursed to us from AON, we are supposed to split it. She was acting real pissy about how she could not afford medication (she is broke this month) and needed to pay for child care. It took a long time to figure out what she was asking for, and longer to find out why she was so pissy.

She was asking for the remainder of the reimbursement (after paying for child care) to be able to buy her medications.

Why didn't she just ask me for it, instead of all the bitching and moaning and drama?

She expained that she couldn't ask for it nicely because if she did I might think we were getting back together......

I said her behaviour makes me want to say forget it, no you can't have my half of the $$$. But I also said she could go ahead and buy the meds.

I have no use for her drama anymore.....I am not going to put up with it.....even if it means no reconcilliation.

She admitted she has a lot of unresoved anger.

I guess she does....aparantly her counselor told her to not deprive me of sex, though she really was not in a healthy place to be able to participate in a normal sex life.




Last edited by native; 01/13/09 04:32 AM.
Me 47, W 32,D 6,
Met 11 yrs. ago, M 7
Bomb 4/08/08, Sep. 8/10/08, Div. 8/10/09