Your H know their is something wrong with him. It's just that he can't put his finger on what it is. My MLC'er didn't care much about damage control, so your H might not either. They act like teens, so ask yourself this question. How many teenagers do you know who care about how other people think of them?
The more open and outgoing you are the more interested H will be. In his mind you're being blammed for all the wrong in his life. He maybe thinking thoughts like how his life would be more fun if you were less boring. Then when someone elses attention is focused on your H has to look towards himself.
