Hey Carlos... I finally got up to speed on your situation. Took me a few days to slog through your threads. But you gave me a pause to catch up while you were travelling.
I recently posted about my last conversation with my IC over in my thread. It might be helpful for you to read it. Much of the commentary about our immature behaving wives seemed to match your case as well.
I know I always had a sense of 'violation' when my wife would move stuff out without my knowledge. I hope that isn't bothering you too much. Try to think of it like a business transation.
My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1