M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
i think we all can relate to and understand how you are feeling and it is only natural to be upset (or mad!) with your h.
you have suffered a great loss and your dog knows that your other one is not around.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi nlt, I hope you are feeling better and your parents have conforted you a bit. At least you still have the other dog to be around you when they leave.
Hi, NLT, I'm so sorry to hear about your dog. My cats are my kids too, and I know how painful it is to let them go. May you be comforted, and know that she is happy now, playing and waiting for the day when you can join her.
Peace and blessings, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Hi Everyone!!! Thank you all for your support & posting to me. I have been pretty depressed these past couple of days, so I haven't gotten on line much. I went back to the vet on Monday to take back a bunch of supplements that I won't need anymore. They said they would give me credit for them. I did take my other dog with me but I still lost it while I was there & so did the tech that I saw. I couldn't stay around to see the vet so I called back later & told them to let him know how much I appreciated his help & that I would still be bringing the other dog to him. They were so good to me!
I do have to say that I had to do some plumbing myself. I was actually so proud & wish my H could know that I did it! My toilet was leaking so I found out where the water was coming from, went to Lowes & got the stuff to do it. My dad helped me some but he knows nothing about plumbing & at first just told me to call a plumber, but I said I wanted to try it, if it didn't work then I was only out $11.00, so I tried & it worked! I was rather impressed with myself!
I had to take something back to Lowes & took my dog with me yesterday when I went, I haven't left her yet since my parents left. She is really sticking with me & today she found the other dogs toy that she got for Xmas & started carrying it around. She crawled up in bed with it & put her head on it, I just started crying, I know she misses her as bad as I do. It's pretty lonesome around here but you are right she is running & playing & I can't wait to see those eyes light up when I see her again!
Hi nlt, Wow, you must be really proud of yourself for attempting to do some plumbing! I don't think I could have done it although I am not such a bad handy woman.
It is difficult when you lose a loved one. I know it will take a few weeks at least to begin to feel a little better. It is never easy.
Thinking of you.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Do you have any contact with your ex? If so, what type is it, assuming it isn't the pursuing type? I mean, are you selling a house "together" or do you work together, have to see each other now and then, etc? That'll help figure out your options other than the one we KNOW you have...GAL. and how's that going?
And yeah, I have two dogs. Always had one growing up. The death of a loved dog (or cat, though I am a dog person) is an under rated event. Sorry. (( )) j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
It's difficult when you have to return to the vet's w/your pet after losing one. Your vet and the staff actually became part of your family the day your dog first went there. Of course, they were emotional as well, as they grew to love your dogs and you for the caring "mother" you are to your pets. I do think that at some point in time, not right now, you may want to consider getting another dog for your pup to keep her company. Congratulations on the plumbing job! You are really learning a lot about repairs and you should be so proud of yourself. I bet your father and mother are proud of all that you've accomplished thus far!
Please be kind to yourself. Spend as much time as you can with your pup. She needs to know that you aren't going to leave her as well. Right now, she's grieving just as you are for your loved one.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
