It seems that whenever I just give up and distance myself in a careless way, things work out better.
I think the MLC'er is in tune with our feelings. Deep down inside they feed off our need and pain. Then when we stop hurting they poke their head out of a little hole to see what's happened. To much of their surprise they see a different, but confident spouse. So they poke their head out a little more to see what else is new.
My advice is keep them guessing what your going to do next. Fixer
